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MikeWaters · 08-11-2010, 07:05 PM

http://religion.blogs.cnn.com/2010/0...-grief/?hpt=C1

This is a kind of weird rambling essay.

You think he is going to tell you how his religious community helped him cope with the death of his son, but after a brief tip of the hat for some ceremonial stuff the religious Jews did for him, he bags on religion and the religious for the rest of the essay.

He sounds absolutely miserable. One wonders if misery exudes from him, in his "real life". And this leads to all the confrontations.

Grief is a difficult thing. It takes on its own life, and has its own character. It can be unpredictable.

Our culture is not one of sadness re: death. Guy in my home ward popped himself in the eye with a gun, after many years of poor health. The funeral was full of warmth, kindness, and even happiness, I daresay.

Well, I hope the author finds peace (he would probably punch me if I said that to him).

ute4ever · 08-12-2010, 03:03 PM

They say there are five stages of grief: shock, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. Any idea how long it generally takes to pass through all five, from star to finish? Speaking from personal experience, I cycled through it twice: first in 04-05, then a relapse in 08-09. Looking back in retrospect, those were some freaky times.

08-11-2010, 07:05 PM	#1
MikeWaters Demiurge Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 36,367	Coping with the death of a child http://religion.blogs.cnn.com/2010/0...-grief/?hpt=C1 This is a kind of weird rambling essay. You think he is going to tell you how his religious community helped him cope with the death of his son, but after a brief tip of the hat for some ceremonial stuff the religious Jews did for him, he bags on religion and the religious for the rest of the essay. He sounds absolutely miserable. One wonders if misery exudes from him, in his "real life". And this leads to all the confrontations. Grief is a difficult thing. It takes on its own life, and has its own character. It can be unpredictable. Our culture is not one of sadness re: death. Guy in my home ward popped himself in the eye with a gun, after many years of poor health. The funeral was full of warmth, kindness, and even happiness, I daresay. Well, I hope the author finds peace (he would probably punch me if I said that to him).

08-12-2010, 03:03 PM	#2
ute4ever I must not tell lies Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 5,103	They say there are five stages of grief: shock, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. Any idea how long it generally takes to pass through all five, from star to finish? Speaking from personal experience, I cycled through it twice: first in 04-05, then a relapse in 08-09. Looking back in retrospect, those were some freaky times.