10-31-2008, 05:51 PM | #1 |
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As most of you know, I am not active. My wife would like to go to church when our babies get older. I have no problem with that and plan to attend with her as time permits. The one stipulation I have with regards to the kids is that the Bishop not give them worthiness interviews until they are eighteen and can legally choose for themselves (or earlier if we feel they are mature enough). The question is this: Is the Bishop legally required to comply with my request?
To current church leaders with access to a handbook: Is it church policy to ask parents for consent to inteview their children? Do they ask if the parents have any objections to any of the questions? |
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I don't have my handbook handy, but standard policy is to interview with the bishop or counselor every six months as a youth (12-18), but these are not necessarily worthiness interviews. The only time your children would need a worthiness interview would be for the following: - Baptism (age 8) - Ordination to a priesthood office (males, aged 12, 14, 16) - Temple recommend for baptisms for the dead (age 12+)
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I know this isn't my place and I don't know you, but I think that's generally a bad decision if your kids are going to attend an LDS church. What's wrong with letting your kids participate fully in the Church as long as they're going to be there? Then they can make their own decision about whether to take or leave the Church when they are 18 and they will truly be free to make either decision, having felt like they were really a part of the Church growing up. Some of my cousins' parents wanted them to wait until they were 18 to get baptized. There was nothing worse for my cousins than going to Church as teenagers and not being baptized, not holding the priesthood (for the boys), not feeling like they were really part of the group. Not a good situation to put your kids in, in my opinion. Probably better not to have your kids go to church at all than to make them deal with that. |
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Every kid who gets baptized is subject to "leading or manipulative" treatment in this matter. I wouldn't worry about the formal Bishop's "interview" too much. Last edited by CardiacCoug; 10-31-2008 at 06:17 PM. |
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Obviously the bishop gets some latitude, but the standard questions to be asked for baptism are on a form and can be provided to you.
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How old are your kids now?
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In other words, when your kid is a teen and he has to go to football practice and he says, "nah, don't really feel like it today, I want to play xbox," are you going to say, "Cool! I dont really care one way or the other. Do your thing, homie!" Seems like you are putting your biases on your kids already, even though it may not feel like that is what is happening. Why be neutral about any of your childrens' interests?
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