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This touches a nerve for me, in that I married a very intelligent, accomplished woman who intentionally gave up personal ambitions to raise our children. The natural assumption she faces from others, in and outside of Utah, is that she's a gold-digger because she married a doctor and is a full-time mother. It's insulting to me and insulting to her, and I think Beck's talk, while going overboard in many ways, was probably directed at these types of moms, reassuring them that the sacrifices they've made will be worth it. Neither of us were big fans of her talk, mostly for the lack of sensitivity, her fairly narrow world-view, and her failure to reach out to those who are not full-time mothers. However, to dismiss all full-time mothers as "slaves", "kooks", or "insecure" is incredibly narrow-minded, ironically to the same extent as Julie Beck. |
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SU, you should read this.
http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200807/working-moms Unfortunately, some will use this article for the wrong reasons. But I'm pointing this out to let SU know that things are more complex than he realizes, and his disappoinment in his daughters if they become SAHMs may not be warranted. |
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That's not what Beck is for. In Beck's world, there is one way women ought to be. From everything that woman quoted in the article said, she's raising her daughters that way. Who's lacking respect? Now, I encourage my daughters toward higher education and higher paying careers. In one respect, that's just practical. If you left your wife she'd get at most about six years of a portion of your salary and half your savings even if she were a high school graduate. I also value education like Mormons value temple worship. I think education is one of the most important things in life and the Beck ethos winds up cheating women of it.
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My cars: 2001 minivan, 1999 subaru forester. Toys: A used popup trailer House: Renting at $1550/month. Yeah, we're living the high-life. |
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Then again, my mortgage is less than your rent, and my house has iron bars on the windows and doors. |
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Anyway, I suspect that we agree on much more than you think. |
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Awesome. I'm installing iron bars tonight, so I too can have the pious, poorer-than-thou ground.
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"Loh graduated from Caltech with a BS in Physics, and returned in 2005 to deliver its commencement speech. She is also a graduate of the Master of Professional Writing Program at the University of Southern California. Her early career as a performance artist included a piano concert on a freeway overpass in Downtown Los Angeles, and one in which she distributed hundreds of one-dollar-bills. She went on to perform a number of well-received autobiographical one-woman shows, in which she developed a particular form of observation humor. Her delivery style is generally ironic and spoken somewhat quickly." http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sandra_Tsing_Loh What I read someone like this saying is she'd rather live the life of an aristocrat, a gentleman intellectual like Tolstoy or Plato. So would I! I'd love to have a "Marth Stewart Lifestyle" (her words). She should be damn glad Sister Beck was not ner mother, or else whe wouldn't have felt perfectly free to get many degrees, become excellent enough intellectually to write iconoclastic articles for the Atlantic. Of course she's going against the Feminist Church now. That's what she's been raised, and educated to do. She wouldn't be the same person, and she might not be as happy and self-satisfied if she were raised by Sister Beck. This is a lot like Orson Scott Card condemning Mormons for being too materialistic.
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