09-30-2008, 08:23 PM | #11 |
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I met Gidget in person briefly twice before it turned into a phone/email relationship. After a few weeks I flew out to her home and spent the weekend with her. Which turned into several more weekends and then weeks spent at each other's place until we were married.
Drum and Creekster gave you great advice. You have sometime to get more comfortable with him and going. Go for it.
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BDB....you are a classic!
Some women have to wash their hair...others have headaches....you, on the other hand, have to attend the BCS Bowl game. Kudos to you for that one. I say go out there and enjoy yourself. If he turns out to be a tool, that doesnt mean you can't explore the city on your own. I assume that by New jersey, he lives within shouting distance of NYC? If not, then I would rethink because there is nothing of real interest to do in New Jersey.
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Maybe I missed it but I dont see any mention of you liking him during your brief meetings or phone conversations. If you dont like him then dont go. If you do like him, I would think about it.
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Well this is a good question I guess. I had really good time with him actually. We went to sushi, and I love sushi, so that was nice. He was very funny, and funny goes a long way with me. I could tell he liked me but he didn't get all nervous and fidgety, which is good, because I don't have a lot of patience with that. Let's see...he was solid entertainment for the 90-120 minutes that I was with him, and extremely apologetic that he couldn't have stayed longer. Oh, and he did seem to have a nice take charge way about him, which I have learned to appreciate very much, since it turns out lots of men don't. There's nothing worse than being 20 minutes into a date and realizing that it's time for me to step up and take charge because the guy I'm with isn't going to.
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This guy seems to be using the "full court press," which usually means he really likes you, but is also the favorite strategy of jerks, control freaks, you know--that type of guy. Your gut instinct is important here.
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SIEQ's suggestion is a good one as well - ask if he'll come out to visit you for a week or so if you are set against going out there. |
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09-30-2008, 08:59 PM | #18 |
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If my daughter ever asked my opinion on this sort of thing, there's no way in hell I would let her go. And if she went anyway, I'd most likely follow her there and tail her for a week.
He seems a bit overanxious to get you on his home turf, and it strikes me as odd. |
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They could run down to Asbury Park and visit the Stone Pony. They could go to Pine Valley and get kicked off the course. They could get lost in Elizabeth and learn how nice where they live is. They could go to Atlantic City expecting a smaller Vegas and find out what a dump it is.
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09-30-2008, 09:26 PM | #20 |
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Ain't that the truth. I went to Atlantic City expecting Vegas with a boardwalk. I didn't roll down the windows, kept the doors locked, and didn't stop at red lights in that city. Talk about ghetto.
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