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I usually don't cave, just because it's PC to do so.
My daughters are special to me, but I hope they pull their weight in their marriages. And fortunately they are working on their own testimonies. My boys are already tired of the lecture that they must put all their mights into their marriages and treat their wives special. I encourage them to treat their sisters well. One complies, another objects. Here's my concern: I see many husbands who love their wives, have testimonies and devote themselves to their marriages, yet their wives can never admit they're good guys doing their best. It seems to be a constant stream of complaints. And then to hear reports back from Relief Society where they complain about husbands not doing enough. The fact is, I rarely hear woman grateful for their husbands, or any woman who prays to be a good wife. It almost sounds as if, they are KNOW without a shadow of a doubt they're God's gift to men, they have no faults, and any man who doesn't please them completely is Satan's spawn. In a ward of 74 marriages, I would say we only have five to six, no more than 10, very good marriages. And this is in a Church that preaches marriage. Outside of that, I can only think of one good marriage, where both partners are trying to be good partners. As I survey my knowledge of marriages, I can think of two guys who were lousy partners, but many more women who just stop trying even though their husbands were still trying. So for somebody to state one gender is more righteous than the other makes no sense, as plenty of despicable women exist. That doesn't mean don't stoop to horrible depths of depravity, which they do, but the good guys rarely fight an uphill battle, against significant odds and do a lot of good, usually without the love and support of women. However, most successful women are loved above all else. Ah, just a pet peave of mine as well.
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I've heard plenty of stories about insensitive husbands or witchy wives. Heck, I volunteered at a crisis line one year and heard plenty of stories of beastly behavior. I also know that basically good people can have their moments of irrational behavior. I've been both sole breadwinner and now stay at home mom, and I know the challenges that come with both roles. I feel sorry when men/women can't appreciate the work that their spouse does (when they're not on this board, that is :wink: ). Archaea, from your post and other posts I remember, you seem to know (non-biblically) a lot of cold, controlling, and manipulative women. I'm sorry that's the case. I know they exist, but i don't think its fair to generalize all women as such. I don't think I use my time of the month to get away with murder, and how exactly do beautiful women get a free pass through life? (clarification: I'm not saying that I am such a woman ![]() |
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yeah i pretty much butchered the original thought of the thread with my one isolated experience didnt i farrah?
i guess i just proved it, men are idiots. count me in with the men hate group circles. i like to call it 'the circle of bitter utah mormon chicks' its an exclusive club where to be admitted you must demonstrate you hate men. |
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I know plenty of women in the church who pull their weight. You guys are either really cynical or just have bad luck. |
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There is a tendency in the Church for men to unconsiously apologize to women for excluding them from the priesthood. How many talks have we heard where the brethern appease women by telling them how wonderful they are and how indispensible they are? The Church is run by men. We have the priesthood. We are told that we are the patriarchs of our families. We tell our women to stay at home and take care of our families.
What makes the situation worse is that our society now tells women that they don't have to be second class citizens. It is much harder to sell the idea of a patriarchal order today than it was 50 years ago. Part of this sell job consists of telling women how worthwhile they are. Sometimes we simply oversell it. |
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LOL I don't hate men. Sometimes I get along better with them than women. ![]() |
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what's this my job never stops nonsense?
When we get home, we're expected and usually gladly participate in homework assignments, taking children elsewhere and appearing at all the performances. Yes it's bad to generalize, cause we can always find exceptions. Men and women are neither inherently bad nor good, but just are. Their consciences, environments, upbringing, all play a role. My experience is, that LDS culture tends to make women very good mothers, but only so-so spouses. Many expect to receive large provisions from husband, many do a poor, poor job in money management, are cold to husbands, expect their husbands to forgive them of their failings, but never for a moment for a husband for the mildest transgression. I love my spouse and my daughters, and to the extent they ask or observe encourage them to pull their own weight in a household. However the negative influences within LDS culture concern me. When me talk, many will comment about a negative thing or two about their wives, but often switch, to, yes, "but she's got the best voice, a cute butt." Or "I remember when ... I almost never hear positive comments by LDS women about their husbands. Men can't all be bad. I just don't believe it.
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