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Your approach to your kids sounds a lot like I feel about missions in particular and reminds me of how my dad talked to me about a mission. He must have said to me dozens of times, "You know, you don't have to go on a mission if you don't want to go."
So when I was miserable and depressed on my mission, I would remember how my dad didn't pressure me into going and think to myself, "Yeah this sucks, but you have nobody to blame but yourself for this." I like your overall sentiment of wanting to educate your children about many different religious traditions and not force feeding them the LDS viewpoint on everything. But I see raising children in the Church more as providing them the full freedom to remain lifelong members if they choose and not necessarily committing them to that path or limiting their choices as adults in any way. And even from a purely secular standpoint I think going to Primary is good for kids. They learn songs. They have to give talks in front of an audience. They have to learn how to sit still and shut up once in a while. And if you don't like some of the things your kids are taught in Church, it's pretty easy to deprogram them and immunize them against fanaticism with what you teach them at home. My 8 and 6-year olds are pretty aggressive about expressing their opinions at Church about evolution and not taking Bible stories (like Jonah) literally (based on the feedback I have received from some teachers). Last edited by CardiacCoug; 10-31-2008 at 10:44 PM. |
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Here are a few observations. My parents always made all of us but one finish a full season of anything we started. Thus if we started piano, we had to continue for at least one year. If we started a sport, we couldn't quit mid-season. We didn't have to start the next season. One sibling did not, and in a small part, he later had trouble finishing anything. All other siblings finished advanced degrees and usually complete what they begin. He is finally turning around but it took many years more, than the rest of us. Not causative or correlative necessarily but an interesting observation. I have college aged children now and have tried to implement the same requirement. Just an idea for you.
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That's funny. Are their teachers good natured? I like the idea of bringing reality into some of the teachings like Jonah. It's probably difficult to do without making it sound like the teachers are wrong.
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We tried to get our girls to run and cycle, they refused. Now when we don't pressure them, both have decided to run half marathons. if it's constantly before them, they'll see the benefits. Finishing the season means they honored their duty to their teammates, and let it ride through to see if they can't persevere. But sometimes what you help them select won't always be ideal for them. I would suggest the same for church. If they start a cycle, make them finish the cycle before they back out, because others within the community will be depending upon them. Let them back out when others can substitute for them. There are times when all of us wish to quit but we don't. However, when the desire to quit persists, then it's probably time to do something else.
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So should the bishop comply with you or your wife's wishes? What if she wants them interviewed. If not, just frees up more time for the bishop. Win-win.
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