How are excommunicated members generally treated?

[RockyBalboa]

Someone near and dear to me was just excommunicated and I know that I will not treat him any differently than I did before. My question based on your experience with others, whether it be family, friends, or even yourself if you wish to share, what was your experience like and how differently were your friend/family member or yourself treated by your own family members, friends, ward members etc..?

He has some serious concerns though about how he's going to be treated. He wants to continue going to church even though he knows it will be a few years before he gets his blessings re-instated. I told him you never really know how long it will be because a lot of varying factors can play into it. It could be sooner than you expect, you never really know.

Anyways, he is REALLY scared and still in a lot of hurt & pain over what has happened. He doesn't hold any animosity towards the church and he knew that excommunication was the likely outcome from some of his past indiscretions.

My heart is just aching right now cause he is such an awesome guy and I'm worried that if he gets treated with derision and is ignored that he'll grow dis-illusioned and eventually his desire to once again hold the priesthood and have his blessings restored will wane.

Any counsel, advice given would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks